“After 3 months I got the best news of my life. Now I can’t imagine us without our twins.”

I believe that I am representative of a generation of women who have been successively postponing the maternity project. Due to a number of reasons related, on one hand, to life conditions itself and, on the other, to a new way of facing the challenge of becoming a mother.

For a few years I gave priority to my academic project and then to the professional. I became more selective and the people I’d been in relationships with seemed to never meet my requirements. In short, the conditions seemed never to be met. And time went by. Then came new professional and personal challenges, resulting in a change of country. And time went by.

It was only at the age of 41 that I decided to start trying. I confess that at that time I had low expectations. These were feeding on every comment regarding a woman, known to someone, who was a mother at 40. The truth is that my fears had a foundation and the difficulty of getting pregnant was already obvious, to the point that we decided to seek help from fertility experts. That’s when we reached AVA Clinic.

This was probably one of the most complicated stages of my life. First, the acceptance of my fertility problems, to which was joined some guilt for the excessive wait. Then the realization, cold, that it could objectively be an impossible project… although I understand that maternity is not decisive in the sense of the realization of a woman, the truth is that I felt that if I did not come to overcome this situation, something very important would remain to do in my life. At some point, biology always seems to speak louder. Luckily, my relationship with my husband has not been negatively affected by it. Throughout this phase, we have managed to stay close, which has been decisive throughout this period.

Adoption, although it was a possibility in our lives, was not a very realistic possibility. We heard about 5-year waiting lists, with much younger couples. After a while, we chose to go for IVF, on medical recommendation. The chances of getting pregnant were not high and there was a real chance of having to repeat the process, which in my case took about 3 months. The procedures involved in IVF require some courage, for the emotional wear we are subject throughout the process. My greatest fear was to face another disappointment as our resistance was decreasing. But there was psychological support throughout the procedures, which helped a lot. But the fundamental thing is to believe.

Fortunately, I did not have to worry about secondary issues such as financial issues. Because I had already exceeded 38 years, I had to go to a private institution, but that was no problem, contrary to what happens to other couples who want to do IVF.

After 3 months I got the best news of my life. Now I can’t imagine us without our twins. Adding to the great joy of having them with us is a huge sense of realization, typical of won fights. And this is the message I want to leave to all couples who may be facing similar difficulties. As complicated as the scenario is, be sure to explore all possibilities. The moment they are born all previous difficulties are gone.